The Shifting Perspective Blog
Parenting tips, personal development insights and family strategies from Gail Friend. Click through to read the full article.
Ever feel like you have to give up on your dreams to be a mom?
Jun 13, 2022
Ever feel… Life is so busy there is no time for my needs and dreams? When the kids get to this age, then there will be time for me… Balancing work and kids causes such guilt! Your kids hearing the words: “Mommy’s working” all the time… Here are 3 tips you can use to ease […]
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Do you ever feel like when something goes wrong everything feels wrong
May 23, 2022
PARENT EMOTIONS Do you ever feel like when something goes wrong everything feels wrong? Do you ever feel like when something goes wrong everything feels wrong? When one aspect of your life isn’t working it feels like everything isn’t working? This is how the brain works, it generalizes and puts everything into the same bucket! […]
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7 ways you could be reducing your child’s confidence without realizing it
May 16, 2022
7 ways you could be reducing your child’s confidence without realizing it Does the way you love your child reduce their confidence? We all want our children to be happy the whole time. We may dispute that logically but when our children are upset, we most often just want them to feel better because we […]
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3 Tips to help introduce new foods to your children
Mar 14, 2022
3 Tips to help introduce new foods to your children Are your children picky eaters? Do you have power struggles at mealtimes when introducing new foods? Ever just wish that your children would just eat their food without a fuss….. Does it ALWAYS have to be a struggle Here are 3 ideas that can help […]
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Find yourself reacting and feeling guilty afterwards? Here are 3 ways to quiet your self-judge
Mar 9, 2022
How hard are you on yourself? Does this ever feel true for you? I should be more patient… It feels like I shout too much… I should…….. So often as parents our self-judge can really give us a hard time. It impacts our happiness but it doesn’t have to be that way! Here are 3 […]
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Divorce: 3 tips for kids living in 2 homes
Feb 28, 2022
Divorce: 3 tips to support your children living in 2 homes Ever feel….. Out of control or helpless when your kids go to your ex? Guilty about what your children go through because of your divorce? Even though divorce can be challenging for you and your kids, there are many ways you can support them […]
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3 Tips to get your spouse on board with your parenting
Feb 14, 2022
Are you and your spouse on the same page with your parenting? Ever feel….. Why do I always have to remind them….why can’t they just do it on their own? They should just know.. Working together as a team in parenting is a challenging but necessary exercise. You have been raised differently and may have […]
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7 practical ways to teach your children about true love when they are young
Feb 7, 2022
Do you really feel satisfied in your relationship with your partner? Do you ever feel…. Like your partner doesn’t really hear you I wish he would love me the way I need it He should know what I need…Do I even know what I need? Love can be complicated. Teaching our children the aspects to […]
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3 strategies to use when your children resist going to school
Jan 26, 2022
3 strategies to use when your children resist going to school Ever get tired of hearing “School is boring” Ever get tired of the morning resistance to go to school? It takes so much effort to just get them out of the house and into the car for school… Here are 3 strategies to handle […]
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Do you have a strong need to protect your child
Jan 21, 2022
Strategies you can use to balance and differentiate when to protect and when to empower your children Do you have a strong need to protect your child? Is it difficult for you to let them feel the discomfort of a challenging situation? Our children need to feel the discomfort and learn how to work through […]
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3 Daily actions you can take to get happy kids and a peaceful home
Jan 11, 2022
Do you ever feel…. I want my home to be peaceful – less nagging and shouting I want my children to feel happy I want my children to do well at school Here are 3 daily actions you can take to develop this Focus on the need behind the behaviour Decide to pause before […]
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3 Tips to make your child’s first day back at school a little easier
Jan 10, 2022
Your first morning…a scramble – the kids are used to sleeping later, they drag their heels, they can’t find their things…sound familiar? Are you feeling a bit nervous for your child’s first day back at school? What teacher will they get? Will they make friends? Are they ready? Will they cling to you? Here are […]
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3 Ways to make managing screen time during the holidays easier
Dec 9, 2021
It can be a real challenge to manage screen time during the holidays. We want to be more lenient and relaxed, but we know we can’t just leave them in front of the screens all the time. Here are 3 ways to make managing their screen time easier Plan the structure of their […]
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How to Build Family Connection at this time of year
Nov 23, 2021
At this time of year, we are often focused on getting everything done. Finishing exams, school functions, work functions, planning holidays. What if we stopped to pause and change our focus to how can I have true connection in each moment? Instead of what are we going to do, focus on how will I get […]
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4 Tips to support our children during exams?
Nov 17, 2021
Fostering independence – Teach them to plan Teaching our children how to manage their own schedule during exams is the best skill you can give them. Allow them to try their own way. And the younger they are the better. In the beginning you can let them work off their exam timetable and set a […]
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3 tips to avoid being overwhelmed at this time of year
Nov 4, 2021
Ever feel overwhelmed when it comes to this time of year? Feeling how tough it is to get through these last few weeks? Consciously shifting the way you approach this time has a huge impact on how you feel Here are 3 tips you can use to make sure you end the year […]
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3 tips to go from shouting to firm clarity
Nov 3, 2021
3 Tips to move from shouting to firm clarity Do you find yourself reacting and shouting? Some days you can control your anger and other days not? It is easy to control our emotions when things go well, but as soon as we add stress, our emotions take over. The key is to take a […]
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3 tips to help your child when they compare themselves to their sibling or others
Oct 21, 2021
3 tips to help your child when they compare themselves to their sibling or others Does your child compare themself to others and feel that they don’t match up? And no matter what you say to them, they still feel bad about themselves. This is just a pattern of thinking, and there is a lot […]
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The 3 reasons siblings compete for your attention and what you can do
Oct 18, 2021
The 3 reasons siblings compete for your attention and what you can do Ever feel like you are doing your best to give your children what they need, and they continue to compete for your attention? No matter what you say to them they just can’t see that you are giving them both love and […]
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Siblings: Is Your Discipline Fair Between Siblings
Oct 1, 2021
A blog for parents with young children Siblings: Is Your Discipline Fair Between Siblings? Do you have different rules or expectations of one child than the other? Sometimes parents are inclined to have different rules and expectations for one child than the other. Usually, the good one or the older one has stricter rules, or […]
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4 Tips to Empower Your Child if They are getting Bullied
Sep 27, 2021
4 Tips to Empower Your Child if They are getting Bullied Do you ever find yourself waiting in the car in anticipation when fetching your child from school, wondering how your child’s day went, will they reach the car in tears, or will they be okay today? Here are 4 Tips to empower your […]
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5 Tips to Support and Encourage your Shy Child
Sep 14, 2021
5 Tips to Support and Encourage your Shy Child Want to know just how to encourage your shy child? Often, we focus on the in the moment strategy to get them to try to take action with something they feel shy about. While we do need to do this, having lots of small conversations developing […]
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4 Tips to Help your Child Handle Peer Pressure
Sep 8, 2021
4 Tips to Help your Child Handle Peer Pressure It can be really tough when your children are influenced by peer pressure. It feels so out of control for a parent, but it is important for us to focus on what we can control which is the conversations we have with our children about it […]
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Ever doubt how to manage boundaries with big emotional outbursts from your toddler
Sep 6, 2021
Ever doubt how to manage boundaries with big emotional outbursts from your toddler Ever worry whether your boundaries will impact your toddler’s emotional wellbeing? As we know tantrums are part of your toddler’s emotional growth. It is a phase in their learning where they work out how to get what they want. Boundaries are a […]
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4 Tips to Tame Toddler Tantrums
Aug 30, 2021
Pre-empt the need We often know what our toddler has tantrums about and what triggers it. If not, start to notice what triggers it, is it lack of sleep, overstimulation, a rushed schedule or a lack of clarity on the situation? When we know what triggers it, we can plan through trial and error on […]
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Do you ask for what you want on Mother’s Day
Apr 29, 2021
Do you ask for what you want on Mother’s Day? When asking the question “Do you ask for what you want on Mother’s Day?” I often get resistance. Answers like: they should know by now what I want, it’s not the same if I have to ask, I am always asking for what I want […]
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How do you feel when your children struggle? What can you do?
Jan 26, 2021
How do you feel when your children struggle? What can you do? I think as parents we all want our children to be happy and have a good life. The question is: Does that include the struggle? While we know logically that challenges are part of life, I often find parents NOT wanting their children […]
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Holiday Expectations
Nov 25, 2020
Holiday Expectations, Yearend Expectations – What are your expectations for these December holidays? How can you have an awesome December regardless? Very often at this time of year everyone is tired and just looking forward to the holidays, some may not even be going away this year. Have you given some thought as to what […]
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Do your children listen
Sep 16, 2020
Do you hear yourself saying “ I just want my children to listen!” ? Do your children listen? So often as parents we parent from our perspective and get frustrated when our children don’t listen. Have you ever stopped to think, I wonder how my child is seeing this? I wonder what they think about […]
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Preparing ourselves and our children for back to school in Covid
Aug 18, 2020
Preparing ourselves and our children for back to school in Covid Sending our children back to school is a difficult decision to make often leaving us more anxious than our children. They are excited to go back, but they don’t really have the big picture of the possible danger. For us it is different we […]
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Are your children still doing their school sessions at home
Aug 18, 2020
Are your children still doing their school sessions at home during COVID? How are you managing getting them to into doing their work? Many parents have chosen to still keep their children at home during this time and find it really challenging to balance being a parent and schoolteacher and making sure their children are […]
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How can we prepare our children emotionally for Puberty?
Jun 10, 2020
Between the ages of 10 and 13 children start to become more aware of their bodies and how they are starting to change. They become more aware of their friendships and comments from others. If we as their parents are aware of this, we can help them to develop a healthy sense of themselves during […]
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How effective are your Discipline Strategies?
Feb 10, 2020
When we shout and they listen, have we been successful?….it worked When we use fear and we get them to do what we want without a fuss, have we been successful? It is always a good idea to think about the long term outcome before we use discipline strategies. Our children’s minds and bodies are […]
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Why are goals so important – especially when our children are young?
Jan 5, 2020
Goals are a way to instil your family values so that it develops from within your children rather than you telling them what to do. How can we break goals down to make it easy to implement with our children at home? Goals can be simple conversations!! It is a process of daily training your […]
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Parenting and Discipline to create the Family you desire Workshop (Saturday 7 March 2020)
Dec 21, 2019
BOOK NOW How to truly influence your children in your day to day interactions Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were parenting your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when parenting your children? Do you feel that the way you are […]
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Parenting and Discipline to create the Family you desire Workshop (Saturday 08 February 2020)
Dec 20, 2019
BOOK NOW How to truly influence your children in your day to day interactions Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were parenting your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when parenting your children? Do you feel that the way you are […]
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Building your Child’s Emotional Intelligence is the Foundation for Success in their Academic Learning and Life
Nov 28, 2019
Building your child’s emotional intelligence is the most important thing to do!! It determines their happiness and success Join me for a one hour FREE interactive Parent Talk on how to develop yourchild’s emotional intelligence in your day to day interactions with them You will learn: How to develop the way your children think which […]
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How do you prepare your Children Emotionally for a New School Year?
Nov 21, 2019
New teachers, new classes, new friends, new grade, sometimes new school There are many things to organise like school books, uniforms, schedules, stationery. But do we remember to prepare our children emotionally and mentally? Getting children prepared for their year gives them confidence and direction. When they are very small it can be simple conversations […]
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What are we Teaching our Children in Our Year End Stress and Rush?
Nov 13, 2019
At this time of year people seem tired and stressed and rushed to get everything done before the end of the year. The question is how is our behaviour, our emotional state and our busyness influencing our children? Are we feeling burnt out? Are we setting up patterns for future burnout in our children? What […]
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The Importance of Training the way our Children Think
Oct 23, 2019
Training the way your child thinks is more important than the result in the moment. How often do we think of just our need in the moment, and forget the big picture of what our children need to learn in that moment? Our day to day conversations have a huge influence on how our children […]
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Your Child’s Confidence determines their Potential
Sep 15, 2019
How confident are your children? Does their confidence vary in different situations? Building our children’s awareness of their confidence and a conscious effort to develop it daily will determine their potential. There is a lot, we as parents can do to influence this, our day to day interactions count. Here are some practical ways to […]
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How much time should I spend with my child?
Aug 19, 2019
In our busy lives today, how much time do we spend with our children? How do we decide what we do with them and what we don’t? How much time is enough? The first place to start is to get clear on our outcome for our time with them. This gives us a frame of […]
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Parenting and Discipline to create the Family you desire Workshop (Saturday 26 October 2019)
Aug 18, 2019
BOOK NOW How to truly influence your children in your day to day interactions Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were parenting your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when parenting your children? Do you feel that the way you are […]
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Parenting and Discipline to create the Family you Desire Workshop (Saturday 14 September 2019)
Aug 18, 2019
BOOK NOW How to truly influence your children in your day to day interactions Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were parenting your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when parenting your children? Do you feel that the way you are […]
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The Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make
Aug 18, 2019
Parenting can be hard sometimes, and there is no course or learning we have to go on before we become parents. How do we know if we are really being effective? Sometimes even with the best intent, we can be moulding our children’s perceptions in ways that will not help them as adults. Here are […]
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I am not Patient Enough!
Jul 9, 2019
Ever feel like you should be more patient? Or if only I was more patient! I often get moms who tell me that they should be more patient, and the first question I always ask is What about you? So often we beat ourselves up about how we “should be” and forget to take care […]
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What do you teach your children about love? What does love look like for you?
Feb 14, 2019
I grew up with a perception that love is when everyone is happy the whole time. Isn’t that what we all want? It is that tingling feeling when you think of your loved one. The irony is that when we strive for that picture, we cause our own unhappiness because what happens when we or […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 16 February 2019)
Jan 10, 2019
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 09 March 2019)
Jan 9, 2019
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 13 April 2019)
Jan 8, 2019
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 11 May 2019)
Jan 7, 2019
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 3 August 2019)
Jan 6, 2019
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Holiday Expectations – What are your expectations for these holidays?
Dec 4, 2018
Very often at this time of year everyone is tired and just looking forward to the holidays. Have we given some thought as to what we want for the holidays? Do you just want to relax and have quiet time? Do your children have expectations of all the things they want to do with you? […]
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How can we support our children during exams?
Oct 29, 2018
1. Fostering independence Teaching our children how to manage their own schedule during exams is the best skill you can give them. Allow them to try their own way. And the younger they are the better. In the beginning, you can let them work off their exam timetable and set a plan for a day. […]
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It is that time of the year again. Does it feel like you are running out of time and energy?
Oct 22, 2018
It is that time of the year again. Does it feel like you are running out of time and energy? There are so many more things to do, more functions, finishing our work schedules before we go on leave, organising for holidays and financial pressures. It is so easy to get caught up in this […]
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Does a loving family mean doing everything together?
Sep 22, 2018
I remember always thinking that having a loving family looked like everyone spending time all together. I would see happy families all together and long for that. I often wondered what was wrong with me. My situation was different. Although my two boys were 3 years apart, because my younger son was a special needs […]
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How do we measure how well we have done and how does this impact our performance and our sense of self?
Sep 11, 2018
Measuring ourselves by our Results Often we measure how well we have done by the result we get. While the result is important, measuring ourselves by our results creates our stress and our stress impacts our performance. When we are stressed we are not as resourceful and learning becomes less effective. Managing our stress is […]
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Managing our stress about our teenagers writing exams
Aug 31, 2018
What makes us stress when our teenagers write exams? What do we say to ourselves? How do we help them when they are stressing? They are stressing too much about these exams and it is getting in the way of their studying What do we do when they are not settling down to study or […]
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Tips to Help with Exam time Stress
Aug 27, 2018
Exams can be very stressful. How can we manage this stress? 1. Listen to your stress Do you dismiss or ignore your stress and try and study “over” it? Feeling stressed impacts our ability to learn and take in information. Our stress is there to tell us something, when we listen to our feelings they […]
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Preparing Your Teen for Success (Talk Series)
Aug 21, 2018
Parenting a teen is not instinctive and is anticipated to be quite challenging Join us for our series of talks on preparing your teen for success. Come and learn to understand your teen. Gain strategies on how to balance keeping control and giving them the freedom to develop into adulthood. Understand how to work with your […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 13th October 2018)
Aug 21, 2018
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 15th September 2018)
Aug 21, 2018
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Setting up Agreement Frames with our Teenagers
Aug 17, 2018
When our teenagers misbehave, setting up agreement frames can be a great way to manage consequences and it develops accountability in them. We do this by having a discussion about the situation, asking questions and coming up with an agreement of consequences. We can ask questions like: How do they feel about what they […]
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Do we judge our Teenager when we Discipline?
Aug 15, 2018
When we discipline, how do we FEEL towards our teenager? How we feel has a huge impact on our message. If we are angry with them or think they are “wrong”, our judgement of them will impact our effectiveness. When our teenager feels judged, they are less open to learning or listening. Their emotion gets […]
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What stops us from being Consistent with our Discipline?
Aug 5, 2018
How many times have you heard…Always be consistent with your discipline? Sometimes that is easier said than done. Have you ever thought about why you don’t? Could it be about avoiding conflict? When we choose not to follow through on consequences, or not to discipline in the moment when we know we should, it is […]
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Tips to develop your Teen’s Strong Sense of Self
Aug 1, 2018
1.Allowing them to choose and try new things EVERY DAY As parents when our children are young we are used to guiding them, giving them information and making suggestions, but is this the best way for them to learn? Do we give them enough opportunities to choose, explore and try things for themselves? Giving them […]
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How do we influence our Teens with their friendships?
Jul 24, 2018
The most important step to influence is taking care of ourselves first. When we are feeling good and resourceful, that is when we are able to facilitate our teenagers learning effectively. As soon as we are tired or emotionally charged we become less effective. Our Teen’s friends have a big influence on them and […]
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Vision for a Parent-Teen Relationship
Jul 10, 2018
A Parent’s Perspective My teenager sees me and understands how much I love them. They know me and what I need too. We can talk easily and openly about anything without judgement. We are allowed to be upset by situations and differences without impacting on our love and respect for each other. We both ALWAYS […]
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A Parent’s Vision for their Teenager
Jul 9, 2018
Our teenager knows who they are. They make decisions that work for them. They are not swayed by other opinions. They know what they want and have the courage and determination to be uncomfortable in order to achieve what they want. They are okay with making mistakes. They have empathy and understanding of others. […]
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Self-care – The Most Important Step in Parenting
Jun 26, 2018
So often when we think about parenting our focus is on our children and what we do for them, or what they have to do. How often do we think of ourselves? Self-care is the first and most important step in parenting. How often do we put everything else in the front of the […]
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What do we teach our Children and Teenagers about their Emotions?
Jun 23, 2018
As parents we want our children and teenagers to be happy. What do we do and say when they are feeling angry, scared or sad? How often do we hear, or say to our children, “oh don’t worry about it, just focus on the positive” or “don’t feel upset about that, it is not […]
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Preparing Your Teen for Success (Talk Series)
May 17, 2018
Parenting a teen is not instinctive and is anticipated to be quite challenging Join us for our series of talks on preparing your teen for success. Come and learn to understand your teen. Gain strategies on how to balance keeping control and giving them the freedom to develop into adulthood. Understand how to work with your […]
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How to reduce Power Struggles and Misbehaviour
May 10, 2018
When our children are challenging us or misbehaving they are often expressing a need for attention, connection or power. When we become aware of the need driving their behaviour and meet that need in another way, they no longer have the need to misbehave. We can implement simple strategies easily into our day to day […]
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Developing the Quality of Self-Love (Series 2, Blog 5)
Apr 16, 2018
Qualities to develop in our children If you missed it, here’s Part 1: Developing commitment Part 2: Developing courage Part 3: Developing Curiosity Part 4: Developing Consideration for others Part 5: Developing the Quality of Self-Love The quality of self-love is about taking the time each day to give to yourself, to consider yourself and […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 28th July 2018)
Apr 14, 2018
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 23rd June 2018)
Apr 14, 2018
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- Saturday 14th April 2018
Apr 14, 2018
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- (Saturday 5th May 2018)
Apr 10, 2018
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Building the Quality of Consideration for Others in Your Children (Series 2, Blog 4)
Apr 3, 2018
Qualities to develop in our Children If you missed it, here’s Part 1: Developing commitment Part 2: Developing courage Part 3: Developing Curiosity Part 4: Developing Consideration for others Having consideration is about having a kind and thoughtful regard for others and oneself. There are three parts to understand when developing consideration 1. Consideration for […]
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Building the Quality of Curiosity in Your Children (Series 2, Blog 3)
Mar 19, 2018
Qualities to develop in our Children If you missed it, here’s Part 1: Developing commitment Part 2: Developing courage Part 3: Developing Curiosity Curiosity is the pathway to creativity and innovation. It is such a valuable quality to have as a parent and to develop in our children. Encouraging children to be curious develops their […]
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Building the Quality of Courage in your Children (Series 2, Blog 2)
Mar 13, 2018
Qualities to develop in our Children (Blog series 2) If you missed it, here’s Part 1: Developing commitment Part 2: Developing Courage Courage is not the absence of fear, it is the ability to act in the presence of fear. So how do we develop courage in our children? How do we get our children […]
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Building the Quality of Commitment in your Child (Series 2 Blog 1)
Mar 6, 2018
Questions are the answer Questions develop your children’s minds When we ask our children questions, we initiate an internal response from them. This creates the behaviour pattern of problem solving and creativity. Qualities to develop in our Children (Blog series 2) Part 1: Developing Commitment How do we develop the quality of commitment in our […]
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Does your child resist talking to you about their experiences? What does this mean?(Series 1, Blog 3)
Feb 20, 2018
My child struggles a bit to make friends (Blog Series 1) Part 1. Teaching your child what kind of friends to look for – click here to read it Part 2. Developing the courage to initiate friendship – the first conversation – click here to read it Part 3. Does your child resist talking to you about […]
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Developing the courage to initiate friendship – the first conversation (Series 1, Blog 2)
Feb 12, 2018
My child struggles a bit to make friends (Blog Series 1) Part 1. Teaching your child what kind of friends to look for – If you missed part 1, click here to read it Part 2. Developing the courage to initiate friendship – the first conversation Very often when our children are not as […]
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My child struggles a bit with making friends. Teaching your child what kind of friends to look for. (Series 1, Blog 1)
Jan 29, 2018
Want to give your children the best start possible? Questions develop your children’s minds…ever wonder what questions to ask? Are we always quick to give our children solutions? Just notice how many times you do. When we ask our children questions, we initiate an internal response from them. This creates the behaviour pattern of problem […]
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How do you prepare your Children for the New School Year?
Jan 22, 2018
New teachers, new classes, new friends, new grade, and sometimes a new school. There are many things to organise like school books, uniforms, schedules, stationery. But do we remember to prepare our children emotionally and mentally? Getting children prepared for their year gives them confidence and direction. When they are very small it can […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- Saturday 17th February 2018
Jan 16, 2018
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop- Saturday 17th March 2018
Jan 15, 2018
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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What does a loving relationship with our children look like?
Nov 20, 2017
I was having a conversation with a friend and we were talking about the phases children go through and how we wish the difficult phases away because we just want our children to be happy all the time and to have good, loving, fun times with them. The truth is, it is in the […]
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Do your children fight in the bath?
May 31, 2017
I was chatting with a client the other day and she shared her story about her children fighting in the bath. Her daughter was teasing her younger brother. Usually, mom would get frustrated and acknowledge her upset son and make her daughter […]
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Do you want your children to just listen?
May 31, 2017
No, we want them to learn and think. Getting a child to listen to us all the time can result in a pattern of just listening to everyone and not thinking and assessing situations. Sometimes it can lead to a withdrawal strategy where they just listen to avoid conflict, or even then later, listening […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop – Saturday 19th August 2017
Feb 19, 2017
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Devoloping your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop – 6th May 2017
Feb 19, 2017
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Conflict Resolution – Developing open communication with your teenager (11 -18 year olds) – Saturday 27th May 2017
Feb 19, 2017
Conflict Resolution – Developing open communication with your teenager Does your teenager talk to you? Would you like them to talk more AND hear you more? Do you bump heads with your teenager? What is behind your teenager’s emotions and how can you handle them? Join me to learn how to develop open communication with […]
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Building confidence in children Workshop – Saturday 3rd June 2017
Feb 19, 2017
Developing Confidence In your children through your communication Does your child struggle with confidence? Would you like your child to be confident to stand up to his peers, and confident enough to ask for what he wants? Join me to learn how to build your child’s confidence through your communication. Understand your power of influence. […]
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Balancing Discipline and Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop – Saturday 10th June
Feb 19, 2017
Discipline – Balancing “Being strict” and “Developing your Child’s Internal Motivation” Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is […]
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Balancing Discipline and Devoloping your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop
Nov 1, 2016
Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is your discipline resulting in new learned behaviour or do you keep […]
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Understanding Bullying
Oct 14, 2016
Does your child get bullied? Do they come home in tears? Do you sometimes feel helpless on what to do about it? Understanding what drives bully behaviour and why some children are more susceptible to being bullied can provide some answers on how to handle it. Bullies bully children because they have a low […]
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Balancing Discipline and Devoloping your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop
Aug 25, 2016
Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Have you ever wondered if you were disciplining your children the way they need it? Do you ever feel guilty when disciplining your children? Do you feel the way you are disciplining is working? Is your discipline resulting in new learned behaviour or do you keep […]
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Where does confidence come from? Are some people just born with confidence and others not?
Aug 23, 2016
Where does confidence come from? Are some people just born with confidence and others not? No, confidence begins to form in infants. Soon after birth infants start to learn, through circumstantial experience and treatment from others, and by interacting with the world. Their interpretation of their experiences and interactions, determine their level of confidence. […]
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What do we teach our children about their emotions?
Jul 4, 2016
What do we teach our children about their emotions? As parents we want our children to be happy. What do we do and say when they are feeling angry, scared or sad? How often do we hear, or say to our children, “oh don’t worry about it, just focus on the positive” or “don’t […]
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Conflict Resolution – Developing open communication with your teenager (11 -18 year olds)
Jul 1, 2016
Does your teenager talk to you? Would you like them to talk more AND hear you more? Do you bump heads with your teenager? What is behind your teenager’s emotions and how can you handle them? Join me to learn how to develop open communication with your teenager and how to reduce conflict. Workshops are […]
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Parenting from a Different Perspective!
Jun 20, 2016
This workshop is designed to give parents specific strategies on how to raise confident, successful children,create a loving, connected family environment and develop the life of your dreams. The workshop consists of four sessions, four hours each, where parents are given the opportunity to share their experiences and challenges and how to apply the techniques learnt to […]
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Developing Open Communication with your Teenager
Jun 14, 2016
Does your teenager talk to you? Would you like them to talk more AND hear you more? Do you bump heads with your teenager? What is behind your teenager’s emotions and how can you handle them? Teenagers are at a stage in their life when they want to be treated as adults and make […]
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Education from a Different Perspective
Jun 1, 2016
This workshop is designed to give teachers specific strategies on how to develop confidence and self-motivation in children which are the building blocks for learning, thereby making teaching easier and stress-free. The workshop consists of four sessions, four hours each, where teachers are given the opportunity to share their experiences and challenges and how to […]
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How to Reduce Misbehaviour and Power Struggles
May 24, 2016
Do you sometimes feel that the way you are disciplining your children isn’t working? Do your children keep misbehaving? Do you sometimes feel that they have the power? When our children are challenging us or misbehaving they are often expressing a need for attention, connection or power. Here are a few tips of what […]
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Balancing Discipline and Devoloping your Child’s Internal Motivation Workshop
May 16, 2016
We are hosting a workshop on the following: Are you having difficulties getting your children to listen? Is bath time or bed time challenging? Do you have power struggles with your children? Join me to learn how a shift in focus and responsibility through your communication reduces conflict and get your children to do what […]
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Teaching children how to set goals and be self-motivated
Jan 10, 2016
Teaching children how to set goals and be self-motivated. It is that time of the year again, where parents face the challenge of children starting a new year at school, the changes, the challenges and how to get them self-motivated to achieve their goals and be happy at school. There are a few key factors […]
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