Shifting Perspective | Gail Friend

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Parenting and Discipline
to create the Family
you desire Workshop

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Self Awareness
is the KEY to Happiness
- Shifting Perspective

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the Quality of
our relationships
determines our success

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Our Emotions and Needs
drive all our behaviour

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Our thoughts and words
determine the outcome

Empower your children
rather than protect them

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The Feminine Leadership Online Summit

"24 world class leaders, speakers and entrepreneurs discuss how feminine leadership is embraced in their work from conscious parenting, business, branding, sales, authenticity, intimacy, relationships and more. With Women’s Month in South Africa during August, now is the time of reflecting how far we have come as women thanks to many amazing women now and before us, however this is also a time to reflect on how far we still need to go. Let’s open the discussion on how women AND men can meet in the middle and move forward, how can we find balance within ourselves so we can meet the patriarchy where it currently is and RISE above it with love without having to smash it with anger and fear."

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The Ultimate Parent Solution

Just imagine feeling empowered, inspired and satisfied that your life is on track.

You know where you are going and you have the answers to develop your child’s potential to become empowered, happy and successful.

The key to effective parenting is a good understanding of yourself in relation to your children, and then having the ability to guide them to become all they are meant to be. Parents who are successful and happy have not achieved this by accident, they have created it, and they have done so on purpose. Would you like to know how?

Would you like to know how?
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Online Workshops

Create the Family you desire online Course – Parenting and Discipline

Join me to learn how a shift in focus and responsibility through your communication reduces conflict and gets your children to do what they have to, on their own. Workshops are very interactive. Bring your specific challenges and go home with real solutions.

Master an easy-to-follow parenting system which creates the peaceful, happy home you want with cooperation and respect between all family members ……in just 6 weeks!

Receive 6 weeks of custom & actionable video program materials that show you not just the ‘what’, but also the ‘how’ to take your parenting and discipline to the next level

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Building your child’s emotional intelligence is the most important thing to do!! It determines their happiness and success.

Join me for a one hour FREE online interactive Parent Talk on how to develop your child’s emotional intelligence in your day-to-day interactions with them

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Workshops to assist your parenting & life skills

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One to One Coaching

Get specific answers for your specific challenges in a safe and confidential environment. Coaching sessions can be one-to-one, with your spouse or partner and/or with your children. Sessions are 90 minutes long and can be arranged at time intervals to suit your schedule and goals.

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We offer interactive Parent talks designed to empower and inspire teachers and parents. Talks are one hour long with time afterwards for more questions. If you are a teacher, they can be held at your school at a time convenient for you and the children's parents.

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Online Workshops

Workshops can help you optimise learning, increase abilities, and decrease feelings of isolation and unacceptable behaviour choices. Parenting programs have a positive impact on children by first positively impacting their parents.

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Parent Connect group

We have created a programme that addresses the outer challenges parents have and how to shift that focus and understand them, from an inner perspective. This is what truly gives us the power to influence our children effectively. We can’t control the world around us, but we can control how we perceive things, manage and react to it.

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The Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make

I often hear parents say “maybe it is just a phase, they will outgrow it”. All behaviour, ours and our children’s is driven by our needs. When children misbehave they have developed a pattern of behaviour to satisfy their need. E.g. When a child is mean or bullies another child they are satisfying their need for power. Their need for power will always be there, so they won’t outgrow the behaviour, it will just change form. The child who bullied children on the playground could become the unbearable boss at work.

Teaching children how to satisfy their needs effectively is essential. When we understand their needs and show them how to satisfy them effectively there will no longer be a need for misbehaviour.


Often parents rationalize away, the niggles they have with their children. They think it is not so bad, and maybe it isn’t in that moment, but it could be the start of a bigger problem later on. Catching a niggle and working with it when your children are young is so much easier because there is no history of pain attached. If the niggle is not addressed early, by the time they reach their teenage years there is history of pain which results in the problem taking way more effort to address.


Often parents measure their worth of how good they are as parents based on their children’s behaviour and achievements. Doing this results in frustration and gives all our power to our children, because when they don’t perform or behave the way we think they should, we feel unhappy and dissatisfied. I.e. our happiness is dependent on their behaviour. Learning how to measure ourselves based on how we facilitate their growth rather than on their performance takes our frustration away and gives them the freedom to develop and grow the way they need to.


Isn’t it interesting how we know or have been told that we need to study to further our careers, or we seek guidance from doctors when we are sick, but when we need answers for helping our children or in relationships, often we just struggle along. Many of us have been told that we should know instinctively what to do. I know I didn’t! There are many strategies and ideas available that can make our parenting job easier and give our children way more than we already do as good parents. Knowing where to give and where to challenge our children is the art of good parenting and understanding how to facilitate our children’s growth and develop their minds is the key to our happiness and theirs. This is something we need to learn.


So often when parents are experiencing difficulties they find solutions to manage or fix the problem and while that is important we most importantly need to look at and work with the cause of the problem. For example we find ways to manage their anxiety, help them with extra lessons, we have therapy like OT or speech therapy to reduce their delays. When we work with the cause of the problem which is essentially a child’s sense of themselves (how they are interpreting situations and their emotional responses) we will resolve the difficulty permanently.